Sunday, September 30, 2012

My life is in your hands

Good morning to everyone! today is a sunny day where I live. Therefore I thank God that he has given me this day. I feel blessed in all area of my life! Have a wonderful day with this touching song. It it a song that surely will lift you up!

You don't have to worry
And don't you be afraid
Joy comes in the morning
Troubles they don't last always
For there's a friend named Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if your heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say

Oh! I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands
[ Lyrics from: ]
You don't have to worry
And don't you be afraid
Joy comes in the morning
Troubles they don't last always
For there's a friend named Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if your heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say


With Jesus I can take it
With Him I know I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

So when your tests and trials
They seem to get you down
And all your friends and loved ones
Are nowhere to be found
Remember there's a friend named Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if you heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say


MY life is in Your hands (3x)

More lyrics:

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Oh my God I'm so happy!

I'm just so happy because today is my blog's name
I dropped blogspot.

Happy Daddys

Let's celebrate the proud fathers. They warm our hearts even if we are no longer together with them! Their love is important for the children and it should not be underestimated. Many women believe that a father is not necessary needed to bring up a child, but that is not true. The love that fathers give is just as important as the motherly one!
So mothers, if you separate from your child's father, then do not hinder the contact between fathers and their children but help both to maintain it.

Sean John Combs(aka Puff Daddy) and kids

Timaya and Daughter Emmanuella

Peter Okoye and Son Cameron

Van Vicker and Family

Mike Ezuruonye

Desmond Elliot and family

NeYo and kids

Heidi Klum to host the coming MTV EMAs

Heidi Klum will host the upcoming MTV Europe Music Awards in Germany. The MTV EMA on Nov 11, 2012 in Frankfurt's Festhalle. The world famous supermodel was born in Bergisch Gladbach, Germany. "I'm honored to host the 2012 MTV EMAs in its return to my home country of Germany. The MTV Europe Music Awards is one of the biggest nights in global music, fashion and culture, and I'm thrilled to play a part in bringing this one-of-a-kind show to audiences all over the world. We're going to have a blast! "
The MTV Europe Music Awards is the biggest festival for music, fashion and culture.
Among other is Wizkid, the Nigerian outstanding talent, nominated for the EMA.

9-year old housemaid was raped and abused!

Hello Dears. when I read this story of 9-year old Favour I feel to cry! I pray to God that her name one day will become true for her! Read the story of a housemaid that was several times raped and abused.

 When nine-year-old Favour Endurance Obilor was taken to Hajia Amina Ukaegbu’s house as maid, she believed that her sufferings had ended. How wrong she was eventually. In Hajia’s household she was battered, starved and serially raped by two grown-ups. How did this happen and what happened to the alleged culprits? From her dishevelled appearance, you could tell she has been traumatized. For Favour Endurance Obilor nothing could be worse than the torture and sexual assaults she allegedly suffered in the house of a woman who employed her as a house help.Even few days after she was got off the hook, the nine-year-old girl appears haunted by the memory of her alleged trouble times. She sobbed endlessly as she narrated to Saturday Mirror how two men, working for her boss, serially turned her to a sex toy – a criminal act her assailants, she claimed, perpetrated with no scintilla of remorse. “I was Hajia’s house help and was always helping her to do house chores before now,” she began with tone laden with emotion. “From the first day I got to her house and till the day I left I never slept in a room. I always slept in the corridor. There were several other people living with her apart from her children.

 Among the people living with her were two males called Aboy and Japan and two females called Oluchi and Nkiru. “The two males slept in a room that was close to the corridor where I usually slept. At a point, they began to wake me at night to come and sleep in their room. The first day they took me into their room, they raped me and warned me not to tell anybody about what they did to me.” Her assailants, she further alleged, did not deem it fit to spare her even for one day as they made the sexual assault on her an everyday affair.

 “I almost said it to other people in the house when the pain was becoming too much but the fear that they might hurt me prevented me from doing so. I never enjoyed what they were doing to me but I continued to bear it all along. The two of them slept with me one after the other and right now, I can’t control urine.

 “I neither knew of sexual relationship nor engaged in one with anybody until they began to rape me. They never gave me anything for raping me. They were just doing it to me because they knew that I had nobody to run to for help. They always raped and left me to my fate. After raping me, blood would come out of my private parts and stain my pants and body. They always did it at night when everybody would have gone to bed. Hajia was not around all the while they were raping me. She travelled all through out that period and I don’t really know where she travelled to,” she recounted. Her travail was worsened by the alleged unconcerned attitude of her boss, who she alleged was also always beating her at the slightest provocation, with no human feeling expected of a mother to her child.

 “Apart from the two guys who forced me to have sex with them several times, other members of the household always flogged me with whatever they could lay their hands on. They always gave me white rice and stew every morning and afternoon without meat but they never gave me dinner throughout the time I lived with them. Hajia never bought me any cloth and did not enrol me in any school throughout the period I stayed with him. She has five children and all of them are attending good private schools. “I didn’t have all these marks on my body before I got to Hajia’s house. It was the series of flogging that I received from Hajia, her children and other members of her household that left all the indelible marks on my body. The blood stain in my eyes was as a result of their beating."

“There was a night that I was terribly hungry and saw Gala in one of their rooms and ate it. When they knew that I ate the Gala, the two females in the house Oluchi and Nkiru used cane to beat the hell out of me. One of them held me to the ground while the other whipped me mercilessly. Despite the fact that I begged them that it was hunger that made me to eat the Gala they never considered my plea. “Before then, there was a day that one of Hajia’s children pushed me while I was washing plates and one of the plates fell and broke into pieces. When Hajia saw that a plate was broken, she took me into a room, locked me up and beat me. After beating me, she gave some of her children the whip to flog me. I am older than some of the children but because I was at their mother’s mercy, I could not resist them. Hajia never gave me any money as salary or for my upkeep,” she alleged.

Chioma, Favour’s aunt, a petty trader with four children, who said she took the custody of Favour and her elder brother after they were abandoned by their mother bemoaned the plight of her niece in the hands of Hajia. “When I saw that the burden of taking care of the children was too much for her, I took Favour and her brother to stay with me. Later on, I didn’t have sufficient means of meeting their needs and because I wanted them to go to school, I gave Favour to my friend called Ebere to train her in school for me because I felt she was financially better. After giving Favour to Ebere in November 2010, I didn’t know that she had handed her over to another woman in Festac. All my efforts to see Favour at Ebere’s house proved abortive as she kept giving me excuses. I later got hints about her where-abouts and traced her to the place. When I got there, I saw her but Hajia was not around. I left my mobile phone number for her to call me. She later called me thereafter and asked me to come and pick Favour before she died in her house.

“The day I went to her house to pick my niece, Hajia again was not at home. While I was still there, she called to say that she travelled and pleaded with me to take Favour along. Immediately she finished speaking with me, she called her workers and instructed them to pack Favours things and hand them over to me. As I was about taking Favour away, I saw blood stain in her eyes and when I asked her what was wrong with her eyes, she said it was a stick that injured her eyes. It was a small boy in the compound that revealed to me that it was one Oluchi and Nkiru that beat her for eating Gala in the house. I did not see the other marks on her body that very day because she was wearing a long gown. I only got to know about the marks recently. I later took her to her father immediately I took her away from Hajia’s house. It was her father who subsequently reported the matter to Zone 2 Police Station at Festac.”

 Decrying the treatment meted out to Favour the South-West coordinator of National Human Rights Commission, Mrs. Segun Mausi, said the commission would not hesitate to file a civil case against the accused. She asserted that several crimes had been committed against Favour but only child abuse case was mentioned by the police. “We cannot arrest the accused because we are not law enforcement agents. All the same, we would file a civil suit against the accused. Several crimes have been committed against the innocent girl but only child abuse has been mentioned. We would go through the AIG in Zone 2 and if he would not do what we want, we would take it to the IG. Our interest in this matter is to make sure that the person responsible for inflicting these injuries on the poor girl is brought to book no matter how highly placed the person may be,” she said. Reacting to Obilor’s allegations against her and her workers in a telephone interview with Saturday Mirror, Hajia Amina Ukaegbu debunked all the allegations, which she described as lies. “All that the girl is saying are a bundle of lies. Nobody raped her and nobody maltreated her. If it was a rape case, how come the police refused to take it seriously? The police turned them down and refused to take the matter to court because they know there is no case in it. I was the one who called her aunt to come and take her away. It is not as if they came to pick her because she is suffering here. I did not treat her badly. The girl is a liar,” she said. When contacted, the Police spokesperson in Lagos, Mr. Joseph Jayeoba, said the case is being investigated. “The matter has been reported. Investigation is ongoing. We will take the appropriate action upon the completion of our investigation,” he said.

 The above is one in many cases of child abuse in our various homes today. Most of these abuses are unreported and no one outside of the home hears about it but you, dear house-wife/mother/mistress/father of the house, you know if this is happening in your household or not. That little girl/boy under your care, who is helping you in your domestic chores, takes cares of your children, etc, how do you treat her/him? Do you treat her as you would like your own blood child to be treated? Do you protect her from abuse from your other male/female house helps? Do you protect her from maltreatment from your children and others? Do you feed him/her properly? Did you enroll him/her in a school just as you did to your children? You know the answer, and you know the right thing. Do the right today, you don't need the police or the relevant authorities to chase you up to your responsibilities. If you can't be responsible for your house help and treat him/her as your child, send him/her back to his/her parents. Stop the domestic child abuse today. Your religion doesn't support it and no religion does, so why do it?
 Read on
Article from: Saurday Mirror

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Music Gangnam Style

"Gangnam Style" by PSY is a reigning korean song and dance style in which people imitate cowbow moves. It becomes very popular on Youtube, people upload videos imitating this dancestyle. Even Justin Bieber was aware of it, he want to produce a song with the korean singer! So peoples watch and tell if you like!

Peter Okoye is against domestic violence!

Peter Okoje of P-Square just tweeted that he is against domestic violence! A man who beats only proves his inability to express himself verbally. In most cases, women are better at arguing, while men seek for words!

Do not drink and drive!

This is a story I read on Stella Damasus' Blog and it really touches me!

 I was walking around in a Big Bazar store making shopping, when I saw a Cashier talking to a boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old.. The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy this doll. Then the little boy turned to me and asked: ''Uncle, are you sure I don't have enough money?'' I counted his cash and replied: ''You know that you don't have enough money to buy the doll, my dear.'' The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to. 'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much . I wanted to Gift her for her BIRTHDAY.
 I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.' His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My Sister has gone to be with God.. Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister...'' My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I come back from the mall.' Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing. He then told me 'I want mommy to take my picture with her so my sister won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.' Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.. I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?'' 'OK' he said, 'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money. The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!' Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose. My mommy loves white roses.'

 I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind. Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy? Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away.. I couldn't stop myself as I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial. She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest. I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever... The love that the little boy had for his mother and sister still, to this day, hard to imagine. Ansd in a frection of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.


Music T-ara - Bo Peep Bo Peep

I've heard of this Korean song today and thought it was cheesy in the beginning, but now I get no more out of your head! So I hand it to you on :) Have a nice working day!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Fun on Wednesday

So finally it's Wednesday, the middle of the week is behind us. Let's enjoy the remaining working days with a lot of wit and humor!

Music The Killers are back!

I'm so happy one of my favorite rock band is back! The Killers! I love their songs like "When You Were Young," "Read My Mind", "human" and now "Runaways", just great! The voice of Brandon Flowers is simply unique. I love their kind of rock!

Enjoy the Lyrics too!
Blonde hair blowing in the summer wind
A blue eyed girl playing in the sand
I've been on a trail for a little while
But that was the night that she broke down and held my hand
Teenage rush, she said, ain't we all just runaways
We got time
But that ain't much

We can't wait till tomorrow
You gotta know that this is real baby
Why you wanna fight it
It's the one thing you can chooseOh!

We got engaged on a friday night
I swore on the head of our unborn child
That I could take care of the three of us
But I've got the tendency to slip when the nights get wild
It's in my blood
She said she might just runaway somewhere else
Someplace good

We can't wait till tomorrow
You gotta know that this is real baby
Why you wanna fight it
It's the one thing you can choose

Let's take a chance baby we can't lose
Ain’t we all just runaways
I knew it when i met you
I'm not gonna let you
I knew it when I had you 
I wasn't letting go

We used to look at the stars and confess our dreams
Hold each other till the morning light
We used to laugh now we only fight
Baby are you lonesome now

?And then I come home after they go to sleepLike a stumbling ghost, I'll haunt these halls
There's a picture of us on our wedding day
I recognize the girl but I can't settle in these walls

We can't wait till tomorrow
Now we're caught up in the appeal baby why you wanna hide it
It's the last thing on my mind
I turn the engine over and my body just comes alive

Ain’t we all just runaways
I knew it when I met you
I'm not gonna let you
I knew it when I had you
I wasn't letting go

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Happy Birthday Jim Iyke

Yes, today is the birthday of Nollywoods "Bad Boy", Jim Iyke! You might love him or not but one thing is sure, he is a talented and good looking actor!

video of the Burberry Prorsumm Spring/summer 2013

Oooh, see what I found, this is a video of the catwalk of the current BURBERRY collection! I posted some pics of it days ago. I love it!

Priest died during the wedding ceremony

During a ceremony in Bavaria, a Catholic priest died of a heart attack. The 47-year-old had just started with the religious ceremony when he fell in front of the German-Italian couple and their wedding guests. A spokeswoman for the Ordinariate of the Archbishop confirmed on Tuesday in Munich.

The corpulent priest had felt unwell before the wedding on Saturday. After the festive entry into the monastery church the priest sang a song began to pray, but then stopped and collapsed. "It was terrible," said the organist of the church service.

The bride and the groom had been married a little later by another priest in a nearby church.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Peter Okoye celebrate son's birthday

Cameron-Jayden Chinonso Olufemi 

Cameron (son of Peter Okoye -P-Square) celebrated his fourth birthday. Very cute the little Okoye, right?

Cameron with Papa&Mama &Friends
Now that's a real birthday party. A typical African kids birthday party goes like this: Mom and Dad invite their friends, relatives, acquaintances, work colleagues and neighbors. Obtain sufficient food and drink. Then starts a huge party where the adults have fun and kids are playing in between. Yes, that's an real african child's birthday party! That's the way my parents celebrated mine and so many still celebrate :-)
So to come back again to Cameron, his birthday is focused on him and his friends. Thumbs up Peter!

Peter Okoye&JMartins with Birthday Crew

JMartins & Cameron

JMartins also came to congratulate him! I'm a big fan of JMartins. He seems to me as if he had no airs and graces. You hear nothing (bad) about him. I like his songs very much!

It's nice that Peter Okoye has taken time for his son. It has allowed the pregnant mom-Lola Omotayo- to rest!

So I too wish Cameron a very Happy Birthday!

Cutie of the Day!

O my this girl is so cute! 

Have a wonderful week!

Love ya xoxo

Sunday, September 23, 2012

She says No! LOL

Interview with Ne-Yo

Last Wednesday Ne Yo fans ask questions to the U.S. singer on Twitter. Here are the most interesting questions, including the response :-)

Ne Yo
Describe your fans in 3 words!
Love, Love & Love

 Whats your favourite song your produced so far?
just did a record w/Celine Dion. So far thats my favorite

Where is the coolest place you have gotten to visit?”
the 24 hours of sunlight in Sweden

What's the best piece of advice you've received? 
anything is possible but nothing worth it is easy

Please tell us something that we don't know about you?
not a fan of bugs. AT ALL

showers 100% never understood the idea of baths for getting clean 

  All I wanna know is NeYo an ass man or breast man
I appreciate every part of a woman but the ass especially. 

Kirk Franklin - My Life In Your Hands

What an amazing song to praise the LORD! I love it so much!
Anytime I sing this song  it will lift me up, because I now there is somebody, called Jesus, who cares for me! How awesome is this!

Enjoy it!

"My Life Is In Your Hands"

You don't have to worry
And don't you be afraid
Joy comes in the morning
Troubles they don't last always
For there's a friend in Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if your heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say

I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

With Jesus I can take it
With Him I know I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

So when your tests and trials
They seem to get you down
And all your friends and loved ones
Are nowhere to be found
Remember there's a friend in Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if you heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say

I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

With Jesus I can take it
With Him I know I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands

Saturday, September 22, 2012

London Mansion On Sale For $160 Million

So folks, this is a Mansion On Sale For $ 160 Million in London. I've watched this video with my husband several times, and so far I think that the value is not justified. Maybe it's a classy place, and the equipment exclusive but we are talking about $ 160 million! This is a large sum! 

What do you think it is justified?

Friday, September 21, 2012

The Burberry Prorsum Spring/Summer 2013 collection

I present to you the Burberry Prorsum Spring/Summer 2013 collection. Now that's a collection to my taste! Burberry has the latest collection all what I want! Very beautiful shift dresses. These are my favorite dresses, they conjure up a very elegant and feminine shape. I think every woman needs to have such a dress! This collection is simple, elegant and futuristic. The long coats look like the wings of a ladybug, very nice. The colors range from nude, pink, green and red. Burberry is becoming my favorite label!

Love, love, love!

Happy Birthday Mike Ezuruonye!

Happy Birthday to Nollywood-Beau, Mike Ezuruonye!
He received two nominations for Best Actor in a Supporting Role and Best Actor in a Leading Role at the African Movie Academy Awards in 2008 and 2009.
He married 2010 his Love Nkechi ‘Keke’ Nnorom and is now a proud father of a son
I wish him all the best!

104 year old man wants to seperate from his wife

A 104-year-old man from Uganda wants to separate from his 86 year old wife. Mr. Mustafa Mulilo has been married for over 49 years with his wife, Wanini Nakizza. Mr. Mulilo told the police that his wife does not sleep in the marital bed and that since 8 years! Ugandan Picks reported: "Mulilo says that he is tired of cold nights and wants his wife to leave his home Nakizza Sun that he can marry another woman"
The police have advised the couple to take the matter to court.

This story makes me smile, kinda cute

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Robbie Williams is father!

Robbie Williams

Robbie Williams has become a father. The proud father wrote the following on his website:
BORN ON 9/18/12 3.33PM, 7lbs 4OZ ...

Yet great news! I wish Robbie and his little family a good time!

Shakira is pregnant

Shakira and Gerard Pigue

Is very good news there! Shakira is pregnant! She and her boyfriend, Gerard Pigue, expecting their first child. The Colombian singer reported this on her website:
"As some of you may know, Gerard and I are very happy awaiting the arrival of our first baby! At this time we have decided to give priority to this unique moment in our lives and postpone all the promotional activities planned over the next few days.

This means I will not be able to be a part of the iHeartRadio Music Festival, but I’m sure this weekend in Las Vegas will be spectacular and I will be closely following everything that happens there!"

I'm so happy for them and wish them all the best!

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Happy Birthday Linda Ikeji!!!!

Linda Ikeji

Today is the birthday of Linda Ikeji, a blogger, which I cherish! Read what I wrote to her: The biggest lesson I've learned from you, it's to do what you love! Money should not play a role first! With passion for the subject, perseverance and determination you can achieve anything! I thank you and wish you all areas of your life in a equally successful career!
With this interview, I got to know her better as a person. Have fune with it!

A lot of your fans and readers were quite disappointed by your Mark
Zuckerberg article last week. It made you sound very materialistic and
shallow. What happened?

Linda: I was trying to be funny but people didn't get the joke
(laughs). I didn't know people would take me literally and that
seriously. I clown a lot. Sometimes I write things just to get
reaction or just to make people laugh. Mark Zuckerberg is someone I
really respect. I've always said there are 3 people I'd like to meet
before I die. President Obama, Mark Zuckerberg and Jackie Chan. In
that particular order. So Mark is someone I'm in awe of and I
sincerely admire his simplicity. But for a minute I asked myself; is
Mark being simple or doesn't he just like to spend money? I was
looking to get people's opinion on the issue. What I should have asked
was; where do you cross the line from 'simple' to 'cheap'? Remember Mr
Scrooge in A Christmas Carol? He had so much money but was a miser.
And that was why I put up that post. But I guess I didn't put my point
across very well, so I came out sounding shallow and materialistic. I
was just trying to be funny and sarcastic at the same time considering
how much money Mark has. There are other billionaires who have
mansions, private jets and million dollar yachts, it's how they chose
to spend their money. Mark obviously is not concerned about such
things and its admirable.

So you're not materialist?

Linda: (laughs) No, I'm not! You should see the laptop I'm using to
blog. There's so much I don't really care about. Materialism is when
you can't differentiate between your want and your need. When
money/material things is your driving force. That's not who I am. Like
I always say, I'll never sleep with a man for money, date a man for
money or marry a man for money. I don't operate on that level because
I don't understand it. I believe in hard work, I believe in dignity of
labour, and I believe that the best kind of money to have is your own
money. I also believe that money should not be the only reason why you
do anything. I blogged for four straight years without making one kobo
and I was more than happy with it and would have continued for another
four years without making a dime but God decided to bless me. That I
spend the money God has blessed me with doesn't make me materialistic.
It's written in the bible that people should enjoy the good of their
labour because its a gift from God. If you get to a point in your life
where you can afford to live well, please live well, because you will
only live once. I don't believe in excesses like having five mansions,
ten cars, four jets, two yachts etc. Just have enough that you need to
live a good life. I met a woman once who told me her bag was worth $12
thousand dollars. I looked at her like 'b**ch you crazy?' but she said
to me, Linda I've been working for 27 years, I work hard for my money
and I will spend it on anything that makes me happy. Will I spend $12
thousand dollars on a bag? Right now I can't imagine it, but who am I
to judge her or say she's materialistic? If that's what she wants to
use her money for, that's fine. It's her money.

But don't you think a $12,000 bag is excessive?

To some people maybe because they can't afford it but not for someone
who has the money. What do you work hard for? So you can live the good
life you want for yourself. Whatever that maybe. God blesses us for
two reasons; to be able to take care of ourselves and take care of
others. I spend more money on people than I spend on myself. The
shoes, hair, phones I have are mostly freebies from advertisers on my
blog. But if I tell you the things I'm doing for people, you would
think I'm only using this interview to show off, which I am by the way
(laughs). I'm the same person financing the release of two prison
inmates. One of them I already talked about on my blog, the other one
I'm not allowed to talk about until we get to a point in the case.
People's priorities are different. Whatever they want to do with their
money is their business.

So money doesn't freak you? You seem to talk a lot about it. You
mentioned once that money is chasing you

(Laughs) Yes I did, but I was just trying to make a point. When I was
running my magazine I used to go to a telecoms company begging them
for adverts. They gave me no attention. Sometimes I would not even go
pass their reception. But now they are the ones chasing me to
advertise on my blog. Sometimes I do shakara for them sef. (laughs).
I'm happy I have money but it doesn't freak me. For instance I drive a
Camry but I can afford a Range Rover. But the thing is; am I buying a
Range because I need it or because I want to show people I'm making
money? I can afford to live on the Island but I live at home with my
parents in Surulere. I get a lot of flak for still living at home at
my age, but who cares? Sometimes you have to find a balance between
people's expectations of you and your own expectations of yourself.

Okay what about all this talk about you desperately searching for a
man? Are you really desperate?

I'm searching for love, desperately. (laughs). I always laugh when I
say 'desperate' because it confuses people. They don't know whether to
take me seriously or not.

But are you serious when you say it?

Maybe. Or maybe I just say it for the shock value (laughs). But I am
seriously searching.

What exactly are you searching for?

I'm looking for a man who takes my breath away. Love I think is the
best gift God gave us humans and I'm not going to settle down until I
find it. I'm not single because men are not coming. In fact I have
more toasters now than ever before. Some men think I have money so
they probably want some of it (laughs). But I haven't found anyone
that makes me want to give up my single status. Until then I'm happily
Ms Ikeji.

You're young, pretty and successful. Why is it hard to find a husband?

Some people don't get it. There are lots of available men for women to
marry. But there's a difference between marrying a man who's available
and marrying the man of your dreams. If I wanted to be married now, I
would. I have a few options. But would I be married to the man of my
dreams? No! So I'm just waiting to meet him. I want a man I'm happy to
come home to. Someone I miss when I'm not around him. Someone I love
to the very core of my soul. I hear some women talk about their
husbands and I shudder. I think a lot of people marry for the wrong
reasons these days. I'd rather be single than be married to someone I
don't love. I'm going to live once and I plan to live it right.

What's your definition of an ideal man?

For me any man who respects women, respects people, considerate, kind,
free spirited, funny, supportive and has principles. Also a man with a
job. I almost dated a jobless man last year. Cute guy and all, but no
money (laughs). At first I didn't mind but then when I had to start
buying him shaving stick I knew there was wahala. I took off. I didn't
take off because he had no money, I took off because I didn't see any
potential and he seemed more than happy to be constantly asking me for
money. That says a lot about a man's character. A dependent man can be
a real turn off. I don't need a man's money, but let him at least not
need mine. Then we will be fine.

So you don't believe in giving money to men?

I saw a $2,000 wrist watch one day and I said to myself I wish I had a
man to buy this for. But I won't be buying it because he can't afford
it himself but because it's a token of my love. I will definitely
support my man financially. I've saved money for the best kitchen in
the world (laughs). I think every woman should support their men in
every way they can, but not when the responsibility is yours 100%.
Those are two different things. You don't have to have as much money
as I have but at least don't need me to buy you recharge cards and
shaving sticks (laughs).

What if you meet a man who wants you to stop blogging? Would you stop?

Sincerely, no. I won't even get involved with a guy who tries to stop
me from living or achieving my dreams. One day this life will be over,
so while I still have it, I will live it the way I want to not the way
someone else wants me to or thinks I should. I met a guy in 2009 who
wanted to marry me but on the condition that I'll stop my modeling and
events business. He said he would get me a job at the UN office in the
UK. I said to him if you want to marry a woman that works in the UN
why don't you go to the UN office building and find a wife there? I
met another man in 2010 who wanted me to be a house wife. He said I
will give you N200 thousand a month for your upkeep. I said how about
you go to your village to look for a housewife. A 21st century woman
likes to work. I think the worst kind of man to end up with is a man
who doesn't support your dream or tries to cut your wings. He will
turn you to nothing. Sometimes I feel insecure men are worse than
cheating men.

You mentioned in a recent interview that you can never date a younger man. Why?

It's really hard to explain. The way a broke man is a turn off is the
same way a younger man is a turn off. On the plane back to Nigeria
from the US in February, I sat next to this really nice looking, soft
spoken, intelligent guy. It was a joy sitting beside him for 11 hours.
I had the most amazing time talking to him about a lot of things, and
for a minute I thought I'd finally found a boyfriend. But then before
we got off the plane they gave passengers those immigration papers to
fill out and I saw him write down his date of birth. 1984. In my head
I was like please lose my phone number. (laughs). I can't explain it,
I'd rather just be with someone older than I am.

Have you ever been in love?

Yes. Once. I saw this guy one day and I literally stopped breathing.
I'd never been affected by a man like that before.

What happened between you too?
Nothing. We ended up being friends for a long time but nothing
happened between us. He wasn't interested.

Why wasn't he interested?
You would have to ask him.

Did he know how you felt about him?
When you love someone, you have to find the courage to let that person
know how you feel. How they react to it is entirely their concern.

Have you ever been heartbroken?

I've faced rejection once but not heartbreak. You can't break a heart
you never took.

Do you believe in celibacy?

Yes I do. I actually practice it despite all the nonsense I say
(laughs). I don't believe in casual sex. I think sex should only
happen between two people who love each other. Whether married or not.
That's my sincere opinion.

But that's fornication.
Unfortunately we live in a sinful world

You once mentioned being circumcised, and not enjoying penetrative
sex. Can you tell us more about that?
Yes I said that. But someone told me later, when you find the right
man who loves you and cares about your sexual satisfaction, you will
enjoy sex. I believe him and I'm waiting to meet that man.

What about all the lesbian talk? I'm sure you have heard some people
suggest you're one?

(Laughs) Yes I have. I've been on the internet actively for five years
so I've heard it all. But no, I'm not a lesbian. Funny thing is I used
to think women who were attracted to other women had some kind of
demonic, spiritual problem. I couldn't fathom how that's even
possible. You know how we human beings are, what we don't understand
we call evil. But now I've learnt to tolerate it even though I still
don't understand it. How people choose to live their lives is their
business as long as they are not hurting anyone. We have to learn to
live and let live.

Tell us about growing up. You mentioned having it tough growing up
Everyone has read my sob story. Next question please.

How much do you earn a month? We heard its up to N5million a month

Not correct! It's actually more.

Are you serious?
(Laughs) No, I'm kidding.

Who's your role model and why?

Tyra Banks. Because we kinda have similar backgrounds. Ex-model, media
personality and then she's very morally upright and a go-getter.

Has anything changed about you since you came into the limelight?

Am I in the limelight? I'm only popular online. I walk freely around
town and only people who read my blog recognize me. I've changed with
age and not with status. I used to be kind of introverted and snobbish
but with age comes maturity. I'm a better person now.

I notice you have a thick skin. People are constantly bashing you but
it doesn't seem to affect you. How do you do it?

People bash me a lot but I also have voltrons (laugh). I think I
generally get more love than I get hate so I focus my energy on those
who like me. You can't run a blog such as mine and take everything
people say to heart. I don't take myself too seriously so I don't take
what people say seriously either. But for those who want to know,
there are two major secrets to having a thick skin. 1. Know yourself
and love yourself unconditional. With that you don't need validation
from anyone. 2. Always have it at the back of your mind that for every
person who thinks or says something terrible about you, there's
someone out there who thinks or says something terrible about them.
Someone thinks you're an idiot. Don't worry about that, there's
someone who thinks he's a fool. She thinks you stink? Her ex-best
friend thinks she's nasty. He thinks you're arrogant? His brother
thinks he's lazy. She says you're rude and obnoxious, well, her
colleagues think she's dumb and shallow. And so on and so forth. It's
a vicious circle. No one is perfect, so why should the words of an
imperfect person give me sleepless nights? Shrug it off and move on.

How old are you really, Linda?
I'm 31.

Some people think you're older
To know someone's real age, ask for the year they finished secondary
school. Most people finish between 16/17 years old. I finished
secondary school in 1997. I've never lied about my age.

What helps you sleep at night?

I don't concern myself with what anyone else in the world who doesn't
know me thinks of me. I know my truth, I know where I am coming from,
I know the hurdles I've had to cross to get to where I am now today, I
know the good I've done, I know how many lives I've impacted
positively. So you see, when I lay my head on that pillow of mine,
it's a beautiful, peaceful sleep.

What about those who think your blog is causing more harm than good?
Especially the comments section
I can't help what people feel. I didn't start the blog to harm people
or bring people down. I'm not an evil b**ch like some people think.
The blog is supposed to be a place where people come for news, gossip,
fun, share ideas and opinions etc. And that is ultimately what it is.
About the comments, I upload them because it makes the blog more
interesting. It's nothing personal. People insult me all the time and
I upload them. Even my own sister was not spared. She started a new
business and I put up her photos and people called her and her new
business all sorts of names, and I still uploaded the nasty comments.
That's my younger sister who I should protect. But just like me, she
has a tough skin and laughed off the comments. I think people should
learn not to take things said on the internet seriously. Half the
time, the people who write these things don't mean it. They are
catching fun so don't take it to heart.

Have you ever been threatened by people you write about?

No, never. People have called to me to take down comments on a post or
the post itself, but never to threaten me. I've also heard that I
collect money to take some posts down and that's absolutely false. I
would never do that. That's like shooting yourself in the leg, it
might come back to hunt you. I make enough money from advertisers, I
don't need to cheapen myself by demanding for money to take down a

Secrets to having a successful blog?
Be passionate about it. Work hard. Be consistent. Be interesting. And
finally, make the blog personal. Let it be a reflection of who you
are. Instead of being anonymous, let people know the person behind the
blog. It helps.

What do you do for fun?
I love watching movies. I go to the movies at least twice a week.

Who's your favorite Nigerian actress and actor
Genny and Omotola. I'm not really a huge fan of Nollywood but I've
watched Genny's Keeping Faith like three times and I've watched
Omotola's I belong like four times. My best actors would have to be
RMD and Ramsey Noah.

And Nigerian musician?
Right now, Tuface, MI and Tiwa Savage.

What's your biggest motivation?
In January 2011 I sat at a friend's office for five hours waiting for
him to return so I can get some money from him. I got there 1.30 and I
didn't leave till about 6:30 after which I got N10,000, which I was
more than grateful for. I never stopped working and I never stopped
believing. This is just a year plus later and I can't believe how
blessed I am. What's my biggest motivation? God. Every time I remember
that he's somewhere up in heaven looking down on me, guiding me,
guarding me, it keeps me going. It doesn't matter how tough it gets,
God keeps me going.

If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
I love myself 100%. There's nothing about me I would change because
God made me exactly the way I was meant to be.

What do you look forward to more than anything else?
Being a mum. I have a godson and I love him to death. I can imagine
how much I will love my own child.

Secrets to success?
Hard work. Determination. Courage. Take risks. Test the limits so you
know what you're capable of achieving. Be good at what you do because
then you won't have to go to people, they will come to you.

Secrets to happiness?
Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Only then will you know how truly
blessed you are to still be here. Also be thankful for the things you
have and don't focus on the things you don't have. Love yourself
regardless of what anyone thinks of you. And always remember that life
is too short to be anything but happy.

Any advice to young people out there?
Three things: One: One day your life will flash before your eyes, make
sure its worth watching.
2. Never ever give anybody in this world the power to make you hate
yourself. Or the power to make you feel you're not good enough, or
deserving enough, or make you believe you won't amount to anything.
The only Being that has the right to judge you is God. Anyone else can
try but don't they pay them any attention

Finally. There's absolutely nothing you can't achieve. All you need is
will, drive, incredible courage and a lot of faith.

It's been great talking to you Linda
I thoroughly enjoyed myself, thanks