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Saturday, September 29, 2012
9-year old housemaid was raped and abused!
Hello Dears. when I read this story of 9-year old Favour I feel to cry! I pray to God that her name one day will become true for her! Read the story of a housemaid that was several times raped and abused.
When nine-year-old Favour Endurance Obilor was taken to Hajia Amina Ukaegbu’s house as maid, she believed that her sufferings had ended. How wrong she was eventually. In Hajia’s household she was battered, starved and serially raped by two grown-ups. How did this happen and what happened to the alleged culprits? From her dishevelled appearance, you could tell she has been traumatized. For Favour Endurance Obilor nothing could be worse than the torture and sexual assaults she allegedly suffered in the house of a woman who employed her as a house help.Even few days after she was got off the hook, the nine-year-old girl appears haunted by the memory of her alleged trouble times. She sobbed endlessly as she narrated to Saturday Mirror how two men, working for her boss, serially turned her to a sex toy – a criminal act her assailants, she claimed, perpetrated with no scintilla of remorse. “I was Hajia’s house help and was always helping her to do house chores before now,” she began with tone laden with emotion. “From the first day I got to her house and till the day I left I never slept in a room. I always slept in the corridor. There were several other people living with her apart from her children.
Among the people living with her were two males called Aboy and Japan and two females called Oluchi and Nkiru. “The two males slept in a room that was close to the corridor where I usually slept. At a point, they began to wake me at night to come and sleep in their room. The first day they took me into their room, they raped me and warned me not to tell anybody about what they did to me.” Her assailants, she further alleged, did not deem it fit to spare her even for one day as they made the sexual assault on her an everyday affair.
“I almost said it to other people in the house when the pain was becoming too much but the fear that they might hurt me prevented me from doing so. I never enjoyed what they were doing to me but I continued to bear it all along. The two of them slept with me one after the other and right now, I can’t control urine.
“I neither knew of sexual relationship nor engaged in one with anybody until they began to rape me. They never gave me anything for raping me. They were just doing it to me because they knew that I had nobody to run to for help. They always raped and left me to my fate. After raping me, blood would come out of my private parts and stain my pants and body. They always did it at night when everybody would have gone to bed. Hajia was not around all the while they were raping me. She travelled all through out that period and I don’t really know where she travelled to,” she recounted. Her travail was worsened by the alleged unconcerned attitude of her boss, who she alleged was also always beating her at the slightest provocation, with no human feeling expected of a mother to her child.
“Apart from the two guys who forced me to have sex with them several times, other members of the household always flogged me with whatever they could lay their hands on. They always gave me white rice and stew every morning and afternoon without meat but they never gave me dinner throughout the time I lived with them. Hajia never bought me any cloth and did not enrol me in any school throughout the period I stayed with him. She has five children and all of them are attending good private schools. “I didn’t have all these marks on my body before I got to Hajia’s house. It was the series of flogging that I received from Hajia, her children and other members of her household that left all the indelible marks on my body. The blood stain in my eyes was as a result of their beating."
“There was a night that I was terribly hungry and saw Gala in one of their rooms and ate it. When they knew that I ate the Gala, the two females in the house Oluchi and Nkiru used cane to beat the hell out of me. One of them held me to the ground while the other whipped me mercilessly. Despite the fact that I begged them that it was hunger that made me to eat the Gala they never considered my plea. “Before then, there was a day that one of Hajia’s children pushed me while I was washing plates and one of the plates fell and broke into pieces. When Hajia saw that a plate was broken, she took me into a room, locked me up and beat me. After beating me, she gave some of her children the whip to flog me. I am older than some of the children but because I was at their mother’s mercy, I could not resist them. Hajia never gave me any money as salary or for my upkeep,” she alleged.
Chioma, Favour’s aunt, a petty trader with four children, who said she took the custody of Favour and her elder brother after they were abandoned by their mother bemoaned the plight of her niece in the hands of Hajia. “When I saw that the burden of taking care of the children was too much for her, I took Favour and her brother to stay with me. Later on, I didn’t have sufficient means of meeting their needs and because I wanted them to go to school, I gave Favour to my friend called Ebere to train her in school for me because I felt she was financially better. After giving Favour to Ebere in November 2010, I didn’t know that she had handed her over to another woman in Festac. All my efforts to see Favour at Ebere’s house proved abortive as she kept giving me excuses. I later got hints about her where-abouts and traced her to the place. When I got there, I saw her but Hajia was not around. I left my mobile phone number for her to call me. She later called me thereafter and asked me to come and pick Favour before she died in her house.
“The day I went to her house to pick my niece, Hajia again was not at home. While I was still there, she called to say that she travelled and pleaded with me to take Favour along. Immediately she finished speaking with me, she called her workers and instructed them to pack Favours things and hand them over to me. As I was about taking Favour away, I saw blood stain in her eyes and when I asked her what was wrong with her eyes, she said it was a stick that injured her eyes. It was a small boy in the compound that revealed to me that it was one Oluchi and Nkiru that beat her for eating Gala in the house. I did not see the other marks on her body that very day because she was wearing a long gown. I only got to know about the marks recently. I later took her to her father immediately I took her away from Hajia’s house. It was her father who subsequently reported the matter to Zone 2 Police Station at Festac.”
Decrying the treatment meted out to Favour the South-West coordinator of National Human Rights Commission, Mrs. Segun Mausi, said the commission would not hesitate to file a civil case against the accused. She asserted that several crimes had been committed against Favour but only child abuse case was mentioned by the police. “We cannot arrest the accused because we are not law enforcement agents. All the same, we would file a civil suit against the accused. Several crimes have been committed against the innocent girl but only child abuse has been mentioned. We would go through the AIG in Zone 2 and if he would not do what we want, we would take it to the IG. Our interest in this matter is to make sure that the person responsible for inflicting these injuries on the poor girl is brought to book no matter how highly placed the person may be,” she said. Reacting to Obilor’s allegations against her and her workers in a telephone interview with Saturday Mirror, Hajia Amina Ukaegbu debunked all the allegations, which she described as lies. “All that the girl is saying are a bundle of lies. Nobody raped her and nobody maltreated her. If it was a rape case, how come the police refused to take it seriously? The police turned them down and refused to take the matter to court because they know there is no case in it. I was the one who called her aunt to come and take her away. It is not as if they came to pick her because she is suffering here. I did not treat her badly. The girl is a liar,” she said. When contacted, the Police spokesperson in Lagos, Mr. Joseph Jayeoba, said the case is being investigated. “The matter has been reported. Investigation is ongoing. We will take the appropriate action upon the completion of our investigation,” he said.
The above is one in many cases of child abuse in our various homes today. Most of these abuses are unreported and no one outside of the home hears about it but you, dear house-wife/mother/mistress/father of the house, you know if this is happening in your household or not. That little girl/boy under your care, who is helping you in your domestic chores, takes cares of your children, etc, how do you treat her/him? Do you treat her as you would like your own blood child to be treated? Do you protect her from abuse from your other male/female house helps? Do you protect her from maltreatment from your children and others? Do you feed him/her properly? Did you enroll him/her in a school just as you did to your children? You know the answer, and you know the right thing. Do the right today, you don't need the police or the relevant authorities to chase you up to your responsibilities. If you can't be responsible for your house help and treat him/her as your child, send him/her back to his/her parents. Stop the domestic child abuse today. Your religion doesn't support it and no religion does, so why do it?
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Article from: Saurday Mirror
Thursday, September 27, 2012
Music Gangnam Style
"Gangnam Style" by PSY is a reigning korean song and dance style in which people imitate cowbow moves. It becomes very popular on Youtube, people upload videos imitating this dancestyle. Even Justin Bieber was aware of it, he want to produce a song with the korean singer!
So peoples watch and tell if you like!
Peter Okoye is against domestic violence!
Peter Okoje of P-Square just tweeted that he is against domestic violence!
A man who beats only proves his inability to express himself verbally. In most cases, women are better at arguing, while men seek for words!
Do not drink and drive!
This is a story I read on Stella Damasus' Blog and it really touches me!
I was walking around in a Big Bazar store making shopping, when I saw a Cashier talking to a boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old.. The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy this doll. Then the little boy turned to me and asked: ''Uncle, are you sure I don't have enough money?'' I counted his cash and replied: ''You know that you don't have enough money to buy the doll, my dear.'' The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to. 'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much . I wanted to Gift her for her BIRTHDAY.
I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.' His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My Sister has gone to be with God.. Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister...'' My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I come back from the mall.' Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing. He then told me 'I want mommy to take my picture with her so my sister won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.' Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.. I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?'' 'OK' he said, 'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money. The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!' Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose. My mommy loves white roses.'
I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind. Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy? Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away.. I couldn't stop myself as I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial. She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest. I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever... The love that the little boy had for his mother and sister still, to this day, hard to imagine. Ansd in a frection of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.
PLEASE DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE
Music T-ara - Bo Peep Bo Peep
I've heard of this Korean song today and thought it was cheesy in the beginning, but now I get no more out of your head! So I hand it to you on :)
Have a nice working day!
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Fun on Wednesday
So finally it's Wednesday, the middle of the week is behind us. Let's enjoy the remaining working days with a lot of wit and humor!
Music The Killers are back!
Enjoy the Lyrics too!
Runaways
Blonde hair blowing in the summer wind A blue eyed girl playing in the sand I've been on a trail for a little while But that was the night that she broke down and held my hand Teenage rush, she said, ain't we all just runaways We got time But that ain't much We can't wait till tomorrow You gotta know that this is real baby Why you wanna fight it It's the one thing you can chooseOh! We got engaged on a friday night I swore on the head of our unborn child That I could take care of the three of us But I've got the tendency to slip when the nights get wild It's in my blood She said she might just runaway somewhere else Someplace good We can't wait till tomorrow You gotta know that this is real baby Why you wanna fight it It's the one thing you can choose
Let's take a chance baby we can't lose Ain’t we all just runaways I knew it when i met you I'm not gonna let you Runaway I knew it when I had you I wasn't letting go We used to look at the stars and confess our dreams Hold each other till the morning light We used to laugh now we only fight Baby are you lonesome now ?And then I come home after they go to sleepLike a stumbling ghost, I'll haunt these halls There's a picture of us on our wedding day I recognize the girl but I can't settle in these walls We can't wait till tomorrow Now we're caught up in the appeal baby why you wanna hide it It's the last thing on my mind I turn the engine over and my body just comes alive Ain’t we all just runaways I knew it when I met you I'm not gonna let you Runaway I knew it when I had you I wasn't letting go
From: http://www.metrolyrics.com
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